Forgive And Let Go

“There is no love without forgiveness, and there is no forgiveness without love.” - Bryant H. McGill

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I’ve been thinking a lot about forgiveness this week. It’s one of the lessons on my spiritual journey that I had the most trouble with.  I just didn’t get the concept. How could I truly forgive someone who hurt me deeply?  I finally started to understand forgiveness when my dear friend and spiritual guide, Danielle Vachon, introduced me to Radical Forgiveness. Although the process of Radical Forgiveness is simple, I had major resistance with it. But after going through it a couple of times, I began to see the benefit of it. I started to release a lot of old energy I was hanging onto. Initially, I used it with little situations that bothered me. I gradually worked my way into the deeper issues. Grudges and pain I’d held onto for years were finally released. To my surprise, I discovered that I had a lot of grievances towards myself. It took many sessions but once I forgave myself for perceived mistakes I thought I’d made, I started to love myself more. I accepted myself and began to enjoy the person I was. I pretty much became my own best friend.

Forgiveness also restores our sense of personal power. When we refuse to forgive, we create for ourselves the role of the victim. Powerlessness, hurt, pain and confusion overcome our true nature. But once we forgive, we let go of that role and we reclaim our ability to create our lives. Victims react to circumstances but our higher selves use innate power to create and transform our lives.  

“The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.” -Ghandi

For more information or to download the work sheet go to RadicalForgiveness.com